Every couple of years, I realize that what I’m doing isn’t working—not my mental work, not my actions. When nothing moves for months on end, something is off. But what?
Thank you for writing and sharing this, it helped me a lot to see your words (which are very similar to my own thoughts floating around in my head) on my screen. Did writing them help you see the root cause? It's here in your words:
"How does it feel to have a stable, regular, dependable income and have more than enough money?
Honestly, I wouldn’t know. I’ve never had it. I’ve always struggled with money, apart from some rare few weeks or months of lavish income that was preceded and followed by years of struggle. It has been a thorn in my side since forever. No matter what I do and change, the job, the field, the studying, the actions… nothing ever helps. Nothing makes a goddamn difference. I’m stuck."
There might be some limiting beliefs lurking below the surface, and it would be nice to find them, but the root cause mechanics are very clear. You keep practicing the beliefs (and therefore feelings and behaviors) that create the situation: I don't know, I've never had enough money, I've always struggled, no matter what I do, nothing helps, I'm stuck."
That's one way to look at it, and that perspective creates a certain kind of experience. Which is what you've been experiencing.
But is what you wrote really true? Is it fact, or is it interpretation? Someone born into wealth or who has created lots of wealth could have the same exact set of beliefs – I know this is true because I've had wealthy clients who say almost identical things.
It's all about what you're focusing on to the exclusion of other possibilities.
What if you rewrote the story of your life with the same set of facts (things that are observable and incontrovertible) but with the opposite focus and therefore interpretation?
"I've always wound up having enough money, I've always been okay, no matter what I do, something always helps, I have many clear paths forward always available to me."
Thank you for reading, Anna, and for the thoughtful comment.
Writing has always helped me gain clarity. I'm constantly trying to reprogram old beliefs that don't serve me to various degrees of success.
That statement was my old realization of understanding that my beliefs and mental patterns are causing my financial problems and a jolt to refocus back on them instead of trying to manipulate the circumstances of my life, which has never produced any good results. It is a self-kick in the ass, so to speak, to return to what is important - the mind. Until the mind issue is resolved, nothing else matters.
"What if you rewrote the story of your life with the same set of facts (things that are observable and incontrovertible) but with the opposite focus and therefore interpretation?"
I like this, yeah. I'm experimenting with the same idea - rewriting the past in order to change those patterns in my mind. I am definitely not persistent enough, though. I wrote about it here.
Thank you for writing and sharing this, it helped me a lot to see your words (which are very similar to my own thoughts floating around in my head) on my screen. Did writing them help you see the root cause? It's here in your words:
"How does it feel to have a stable, regular, dependable income and have more than enough money?
Honestly, I wouldn’t know. I’ve never had it. I’ve always struggled with money, apart from some rare few weeks or months of lavish income that was preceded and followed by years of struggle. It has been a thorn in my side since forever. No matter what I do and change, the job, the field, the studying, the actions… nothing ever helps. Nothing makes a goddamn difference. I’m stuck."
There might be some limiting beliefs lurking below the surface, and it would be nice to find them, but the root cause mechanics are very clear. You keep practicing the beliefs (and therefore feelings and behaviors) that create the situation: I don't know, I've never had enough money, I've always struggled, no matter what I do, nothing helps, I'm stuck."
That's one way to look at it, and that perspective creates a certain kind of experience. Which is what you've been experiencing.
But is what you wrote really true? Is it fact, or is it interpretation? Someone born into wealth or who has created lots of wealth could have the same exact set of beliefs – I know this is true because I've had wealthy clients who say almost identical things.
It's all about what you're focusing on to the exclusion of other possibilities.
What if you rewrote the story of your life with the same set of facts (things that are observable and incontrovertible) but with the opposite focus and therefore interpretation?
"I've always wound up having enough money, I've always been okay, no matter what I do, something always helps, I have many clear paths forward always available to me."
Thank you for reading, Anna, and for the thoughtful comment.
Writing has always helped me gain clarity. I'm constantly trying to reprogram old beliefs that don't serve me to various degrees of success.
That statement was my old realization of understanding that my beliefs and mental patterns are causing my financial problems and a jolt to refocus back on them instead of trying to manipulate the circumstances of my life, which has never produced any good results. It is a self-kick in the ass, so to speak, to return to what is important - the mind. Until the mind issue is resolved, nothing else matters.
"What if you rewrote the story of your life with the same set of facts (things that are observable and incontrovertible) but with the opposite focus and therefore interpretation?"
I like this, yeah. I'm experimenting with the same idea - rewriting the past in order to change those patterns in my mind. I am definitely not persistent enough, though. I wrote about it here.
https://masterthemind.substack.com/p/lets-rewrite-the-past-for-a-better-future
"But is what you wrote really true? Is it fact, or is it interpretation?"
It's both, but I understand your point. Thanks for a great reminder.