Desire Is Suffering - To Desire Nothing Is Freedom - Daily Rant #22
Let's rant about desire. Is it bad? Is it good? How does desiring feel? How does having all you want feel?
INTRODUCTION
Dear reader, this is my daily rant, meant for myself and not for you. It’s random, unfiltered and messy. My reality is not your reality. I write these thoughts with the intention to process ideas better myself and mold my mind to my liking, and, with it my world. I share them with you in the hope they may be useful to you in some way. If you’re here, there’s a reason for it.
They have helped me beyond words to find inner peace, connect with the all, improve my relationships, remove mental blocks, heal, and alter my reality in more ways than you could possibly imagine.
My perspective will be different than yours, and that is okay. If you find some ideas interesting and useful, play with them. Build upon them. Ignore and leave out the rest. I would encourage you to make a daily habit of writing such rants - in accordance with your perspective, ideas, beliefs, desires, and personality.
Good luck, though you don’t need it.
Desire is suffering
When I want something, I am miserable. I project the energy of lack. I keep reminding myself of what is missing in my life. I don’t have what I want, so I’m not happy. I focus on the bad, not the good.
It’s not the goals, it’s the feeling of want
I have goals and desires. It can’t be helped. I know it. I’m aware of it. There is no need to keep reminding myself of what I want and, therefore, don’t have. The feeling of wanting something desperately feels horrible. I don’t like it. I don’t want it. It makes me feel worse, not better. It’s a constant reminder of lack. Lack feels bad. It’s simple.
I must make peace with not having what I desire
The only way to free myself from my desires is to make peace with not getting them. Ever! I have to find a way to be okay with living despite accepting that I might never get what I want and be at peace with that. What do I need anyway? Very little. Everything else is a bonus.
If I never get what I want, I’ll be just fine. I’m okay with not getting what I want. I can live without it. I can live a good life full of happiness and love, even if I never get what I desire. Happiness is of the mind. I can and will be happy with what I’ve got. I’ll gladly accept more when offered, but I refuse to be bogged down with thoughts of lack.
Desire is prison
As long as I desire something from someone, I am imprisoned by them in a way. They now hold power over me. If am free of desires, I am a truly free person. No one can contain me, tell me what to do, and be my master. If I don’t care what happens, I am at peace. If I don’t want something, there is no need to be anxious anymore or to fear anything. To be desireless, with or without having it all, is the ultimate state of being. The ultimate peace and freedom. The ultimate power.
I have what I need most of the time
Billions on this planet have a whole lot less than me and are just fine. I am the fortunate one. I have what many have not. I am grateful for it all: my health, family, time, safety, functioning limbs, all my senses, and a roof over my head. Billions would kill to have what I have, and I almost don’t have to lift a finger for it all. I am blessed, and I know it. I may not have it all, but I focus on what I have more than on what I lack. This will completely change my perspective and how I feel about myself and my life.
I have so much more
Not only do I have all I need, but I also have a few bonuses that most people on this planet can only dream of. Yes, they’re nothing special where I come from, but they’re still awesome. I have the freedom to travel and a good passport that opens doors everywhere. I have a motorcycle that I get to ride whenever I want. I have a nice apartment that I rent under market value. Barely, but hey. I have traveled to the best of my ability and enjoyed every moment. I get to write my thoughts on the internet, and people read them. All our bills are somehow paid for. My family is healthy and happy, and we are close.
I am the infinite one. I desire nothing. I am the all.
I love this affirmation from Lester Levenson. I am the infinite one, the alpha and the omega, the first and the last, the beginning and the end. Therefore, how can I desire anything? I am one with the infinite, god, universe, the whole of reality. I desire nothing because I have everything. On some level, I am complete.
Since this simulation, dream world, illusion, mental projection we call reality is essentially a product of my mind, I have everything since I have them in my mind. The discourse, the chasm between my mind and this reality, is in my lack of conviction. I am too often grounded in the material world, where things are difficult, even impossible. But for the mind, the dream, the simulation, nothing is difficult or impossible.
Desire is lack
Whatever I desire, I am lacking, and my reality will reflect that conviction back at me like a non-judgemental mirror. I want something, therefore I lack that something, well yes you do. To desire is to feel and think lack. To want something is to admit you don’t have it.
When I believe I don’t have it and think, talk, and complain about it, the world around me reflects that. I feel bad when I want something I don’t or can’t have. It’s not a productive state of being, and it doesn’t lead to happiness and peace. Instead of me getting what I want, I get what I put out. What I radiate is more lack, more want, more desire, more pain, and more suffering.
What is the opposite of desire and, therefore, lack?
The opposite of desire is fulfillment. The opposite of lack is abundance, not lacking something, but having it and enjoying it. When you have something, you don’t make a big deal out of it, it’s normal to you. Whether it’s health, money, job, travel, cars, houses, or lovers and a family, the effect is always the same.
When you lack it and desire it, you make a big deal out of it. You think about it all the time. You crave it, and it consumes you. When you have those things, they soon become a part of your normal. You don’t think about them anymore. Not like you used to.
The difference between someone who has the thing you want and you, who desires it so strongly, is the conviction and belief that they have it and your belief and desperation that you don’t have it. You both get what you project in your mind. As within, so without.
They get more of what they have, and you get more of what you have, which is more lack. And so the rich get richer, and the poor get poured. The family man is plagued by female suitors, while a single man is ignored. A happy person gets more reasons to be happy, and a miserable person gets more reasons to be miserable.
How would it feel if I had the thing you desire the most?
If I were to have what I desire, I would be at peace, content, and happy. Not exactly happy, just sort of “yeah, it’s normal and nice to have” happy. I would hardly ever think of it, except when I would be using or interacting with it, but even then, I would most likely take it for granted.
It feels calm and relaxed. It feels happy and content. It feels at ease and flowing. It feels perfect and enough. It feels natural, normal. It feels accepted and no big deal. It feels grateful and appreciative. It feels free and alive. It feels joyful and open. If feels loved and accepted. It feels strong and powerful. It feels safe and secure. It feels whole and complete.
If I desire money, I feel a certain way. Scared, unsafe, lacking, angry, unworthy. So how would I feel that would be the opposite of this?
If I desire love, I feel lonely, desperate, and unloved. I crave attention, understanding, and acceptance. So, how would I feel if I were in a happy relationship?
If I desire work, I feel unemployed, worthless, useless, rejected, and poor. How would I feel had I the perfect job with a good income?
A reminder to myself never to fall into the trap of desiring what I have not
Always remember that you have plenty and that the things you want are already yours, even if you can’t see them. If you can’t, they never will be. You are the only one standing in your way. The simulation, or this dream world of reality, is simple enough - it’s an objective mirror that reflects your inner world into the apparent outer world.
Controlling your mind is the hard part
Believing you are someone and have something you can’t yet see, feel, or touch is the hard part. Staying true to your convictions and goals is the challenge, especially when those trials of your conviction show up, as they always do. Mind first, the rest will take care of itself. Believe, and you shall receive. It’s all just a simulation, a dream world anyway. Nothing here is real, material, or separate from you. Anything is possible at any time. Never forget this!
Rant over
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